Dealing legally with family issues is always hard to do. We don’t want the problem to get worse while we also don’t want to hurt anyone feeling while remain objective as well. It sounds almost impossible. However, it can be done as long as we know what to do and what things we should avoid. Here are things we should do
#1. Secure Our Money
Financial matter will be the worst part. Since the early stage, we should initiate calculation on assets and joint account so each person can get their worth and no one is left hanging with too little money. We may need the help from third party for this.
#2. Keep Paying the Bills
Even though family matter is always life sucking and very frustrating, we need to focus and make sure that we continue life as it is. Paying the bills also makes sure that we get out of any future problems we will need to handle like children health care and education.
#3. Be Fair and Generous
We will feel the urgency to stand for our own selves. We must be aware on our right and settle it down nicely. However, we can also be a better person by being generous yet fair without neglecting our own need.
While there are dos, there are also don’ts like the following points.
#1. Don’t be Careless
We need to make sure that our behaviour and action are done after serious consideration and in careful manner. Even though it is a family issue, misconduct on our behaviour can lead to detail they will bring to fight against us. Don’t write or say anything unless legally suggested.
#2. Don’t be Too Hard to Ourselves
As we feel the burden, we often blame our own selves being the one that causes everything. In fact, problems happen with both sides making mistake. We need to fix it but we also deserve the needs to be fulfilled. Let us focus on solution and try to be objective all the time.
#3. Make Sure the Kids are not Depressed
Family issue is always the worst issue because we have kids around. Pressure and stress can give bad influence on their mental health. Even though the issue is hard and disturbing, we must try our best to keep the kids alright. Make them know the situation but don’t let them know the bitter parts.
Those can be hard to do. However, we need to put some more effort to make sure the problem is solved and everyone gets what they deserve including us, and the kids are not too depressed and disturbed.